Single Mom : Are you less datable if you have more than one kid

Some of you might have read the thoughtful piece on single mom by choice in yesterday’s New York Times Magazine.

We loved reading about the ways these single mom families intertwined : how they cooperated and took care of one another in ways that typically define “family.”

Of course, we were most interested in how these single moms managed or did not manage their romantic and sexual relationships.

We loved this quote from a single mom who has opted out of dating for right now. “To be honest, if I wanted to be looking, I’d have to dress differently. I go out with my kids in the morning in sweatpants and a T-shirt and with my hair up.”

Here’s what we found intriguing :

Many single moms by choice are opting to conceive or adopt a second child. The result, however, is that many of these single moms by choice find that raising two children takes them out of the dating scene. They’re not just taking a break during the toddler years, either.

These “two kid” moms report they lack both the energy and the opportunity to meet men. We certainly recognize that more kids = more work, but we never considered that having more than one child was a dating dilemma.

We’d love to know your thoughts on this one:

Does having more than one kid make you less datable?

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